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  • Writer's pictureMia Denean

How To Prepare Yourself For The Promise

Updated: Dec 16, 2022

Promise is a gift that comes from within. Whether you have made a promise to yourself to become healthier, be more consistent at something, move to a new location, become the CEO of your own company, or walk away from a situation that no longer serves you, It is your journey. Preparing ourselves to receive these promises will take inner self-work, getting out of our comfort zones, and re-evaluating the energy and environments we surround ourselves with.

Patient and Purpose

Remember Patience and purpose are two different things. Patience is the ability to wait for something, while purpose is why we stay. They both play an essential role in our lives, but it's important to realize that they're not interchangeable.

Using my personal life experiences as an example. I promised myself that by the age of 22, I would leave my full-time job in the medical field to become the manager and measurer of my own time, success, and financial opportunities. I had the vision inside of me to expand my brand and businesses and eventually move to a new state for better options and happiness. The idea of getting up every day, 7seven days a week, if I decided to work overtime and go to a job that I knew I did not see myself taking on as a career and dealing with an environment that did not fulfill me secondly began to physically drain me by experiencing migraines, stress and a feeling of disappointing myself every time I had to put on my uniform became distasteful but to. Still, to walk away from what had been my primary source of income and allowed allow myself to live the life that I did, I had to learn how to prepare myself for what was to come. I promised myself at 19, but at 22, I could achieve it(3 years). I promised myself that I would move to a new state at the age of 15, and at the age of 23, I did it (8 years). I achieved both of these promises by remembering my purpose and having patience with myself.

Out With The Old in With The New

A key component in any personal journey is letting go of energy that is noneffective or serving us to allow new energy to flow into our lives. Have you ever let go of someone or a situation, and shortly afterward, you started to experience something good come into your life that you didn't think possible at that time? That is energy; it is essential to know when it is time to let go. Sometimes we want to hold onto that person(s) or situation so tightly that we have a death grip on it, not realizing that that is holding us back from receiving something greater. It would be best if you let it go to flourish, whether it is a toxic friend, family member, partner, job,or habit.

Don't Be Afraid To Give Up The Good To Go For The Great

"Don't be afraid to give up the good to go for the great"-John D. Rockefeller.

Once you know your purpose, you must find a way to make it happen. It won't come quickly or on its own—you must work on it consistently and with an open mind. Things don’t change overnight, but if you keep moving forward in faith, one step at a time, and take things day by day, eventually, your vision will become a reality.

Ask For Help

Ask for help. The truth is, we all need it from time to time—don't be afraid to ask for support from a trusted individual.

Be open to receiving help. You may find yourself in a position where you're offering assistance or guidance, but that doesn't mean that you shouldn't accept it if someone offers it first! It's easy to forget that getting help doesn't make you less capable; it makes you more aware of your limits and strengths.

Be open to giving help when asked. When someone asks me how they can improve their writing, I do my best not only try not to answer with "You just need more practice," but also to give them specific tips based on what I've learned from my own experiences as an editor and writer myself—and this kind of encouragement goes both ways! You never know how much encouragement could change someone else's life until it happens.

Put The Past Behind You, and It's The Past

The past is not who you are but rather who you were. It's not your future, and it certainly isn't your friend or enemy—it's nothing but a chain of events that we either allow ourselves to stay chained to or free ourselves to embrace the possibility of a better reality. We cannot revisit the past and change how something turned out, but we can control how we allow it to affect us going forward. It is natural for us to use situations that have happened in our past to excuse why we think we cannot do something differently or go for something that we want—by doing that, we are limiting our capabilities by counting ourselves from the beginning. Our past is filled with lessons we should learn from to take into our future. If a similar situation arises or we see others going through something we have experienced, we are prepared to handle it with wisdom and knowledge.

Get Out of Your Comfort Zone

The Promise you make to yourself is a time for reflection and contemplation. It’s a time to step out of your comfort zone, try new things, and learn from them. It’s also a time to let go of what you don’t need in your life anymore. The first step to becoming a change maker is to take the first step. You don’t have to do anything more than that—start doing it and then watch what happens. An example of this is saying that you want to go to the gym this week because you want to get on a path of exercising frequently and taking care of your health. The week comes, and you push it off for the next day and then the next day until you never end up going because now you "don't have the time" or you have "something better to do" You may be scared and hesitant, but if you stay where you are at, nothing will change. I recently saw something that stood out to me on the internet, saying, "'Everything is a risk, doing nothing at all is a risk" Staying in complacent energy is a risk because that leads to procrastination followed by stagnation. The result is you going back to that promise you made months later when now the circumstances have changed


Stop Playing The Main Role In Other's Stories

You have to be a priority and not an option to someone else's, especially yourself. We have to learn how to stop making other'sothers' misfortunes our own. In doing that, we neglect ourselves and the things we need to work on to improve ourselves because we want to help everyone else first. Also, we could be absorbing other's energy if it is in a constant negative state that will affect us. Sometimes we are quicker to forgive others than we are to forgive ourselves. Why is that? Being kinder to ourselves in prioritizing our health and aspirations, speaking about ourselves, and presenting ourselves can be more motivating to those around us than we know.

Overstimulating Our Minds

In our modern lives, we overstimulate our minds more than we know. Our brains crave stimulation because it's what they've been trained to do since birth. We always seek something to entertain, distract us, and fill the void. The problem is that this type of mental stimulation can be addictive and cause anxiety and stress if it goes unchecked for too long.

We need to know when it is time to put our phones down, shut off the screens, and unplug from the programming, illusions, and distractions that social media and entertainment platforms have made us almost enslaved to. We always want to know what is going on with everyone else's lives instead of focusing on what is right in front of us. We live in a time when we want everything to come to us immediately. We crave instant gratification from strangers, We need to see instant results, or we think something is not working, and then we move on to the next thing that we believe will give us what we want without realizing that things take T I M E.

These tips will help prepare you for the promise ahead! This, too, shall pass!

The journey to the promise is long and hard, but with these tips, you will be prepared for whatever comes your way.

Be patient: Patience is what builds our character and transforms not only the relationship that we have with ourselves but with others. Patience is what keeps us from quitting in those moments when we feel like giving up. It also reduces stress and anxiety, which will deviate our spirits and minds if we allow them. Patience is what puts us on the path to success.

Be confident: The future can seem like such an impossible feat that many people give up before they even begin their journeys toward achieving their goals; however, if we're committed enough not only in our hearts but also in our minds—to ourselves first as well as others—then there's no limit on what we can accomplish! So don't let fear keep us from reaching out into the unknown...let confidence and faith guide us forward instead!

Be prepared: Where do I start? Do I need help getting started? Who will assist me along my journey? How much free time do I have available each day/weekend? How many resources will I need financially? Etc. Answering these questions can help you to create a plan. Having a plan is a great place to start. Writing this plan out and having it easily accessible to you is even better. This will allow you to construct how something will get done, and then you can have a step-by-step execution.

Be Grateful. Expressing gratitude will take you a long way. Every day that we open our eyes us having open our eyes, we have the chance to do something that we did not do before towards our promise. Even when it may seem like things may not be going our way at that moment, having a grateful heart will allow you to see the blessings that surround us every day. When you get in that car, bus, train, or airplane and make it to your destination safely, that is something to be grateful for. Having another chance at life every day is something to be thankful for. Having your mind, sight and health is something to be grateful for. We need to be thankful for the things we get through each day.

I hope this guide has been helpful to you. The things we want in life do take some time and effort, but seeing them fulfilled is gratifying. The promises you make to yourself are an exciting journey that can be difficult but worth it. In the end, the lessons you learn build your character and wisdom. And remember: no matter what happens during your journey, you are not alone! Please feel free to reach out on any of the BlackBoujeeBeauty platforms for any questions that you may have. Stay beautiful!

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